Backstabbing is Not Coming from Your Enemy, it is Your Friend Who Did.

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Have you ever had experience to be backstabbed by someone?

I really know how it feels. In my life, I ever experiences or even met with some people who backstabbed me or other people. Mostly, that backstabber coming from your friend, your circle, instead of your enemy. Because most of them are already know who you are, they already know your weakness. Their intention is just wanted to see you feel bad and sad, or sometimes they just feel jealousy of what you had.

According to the Urban Dictionary, backstabbing means:

"A person who for some unknown reason pretends to be your friend then harrasses you for no reason then denys it all then admits it then denys it again then tries to get you to feel bad for alerting an adult of the situation."

Backstabber’s will say the nicest things about you in your presence, only to turn around and tell others what a good-for-nothing, hopeless waste of space you are. They feel insecure, emotionally vulnerable, and angry with themselves and the world, so make up stories about others or exaggerate minor mistakes and weaknesses of people. They like to stir up conflict and drama, and enjoy seeing people going at each other’s’ throats. Often, these people leave us astounded and confused when we realise what they are up to due to their stealth and subtlety.

I had a friend who ever did that to me. I feel really sad, cause that time she talked fake things about me to my other friends. I was sad, cause I met and knew her for almost 3 years at that time and we are in the same group of friends when we were in University. But then, I found out she talked bad things about me to other friends. I felt so upset with her. So, I chose to met her and talked what is her real problems with me, instead of talked or gossiped behind her though. And, we did that! Maybe at first she will look not good in front of you, because you finally found out her bad deeds. But seriously, this is just an effective way to solve the problem. I cried a lot in front of her, then I hugged her, because I won't let my friends become my enemy and I will never let it happen in my life. For me, friend is my second family, and it will always be.

Fortunately, since then, we are still be good friends till now. Even we didn't meet all the time, but every time we met, we always sharing any stories, laughing out loud, and always cheerful to each other. We used our past as our experience.

We learnt from it. We grew up from it.

But, unfortunately, backstabber’s will always be exist. They are everywhere.

Just like a virus.

Source: Health Psychology | Urban Dictionary

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