What's the Difference: Chasing & Playing?

Have you ever been in a position where; there is a guy who approaches you and shows his interest, then he is start to texting and talking on the phone all the time with you, then after, you both go on a date?

Then, things happen so fast and you both enjoy the relationship.

After a while, he slowly back off and his interest sort of tapers off with you.

Unfortunately, you already thinking about him a lot. You share everything about him with people around you, like; what you guys doing on a date? What movie did you watch together? How he treats you like a Princess on the first date? And all of texts that he sends to you. You tell everything about him to your friend.

You even showing your affection to him, but he's not showing any signs of chasing at all.

Long story short, he seems does not seriously make an effort to you.

I've read an article about what's the different between chasing and playing that frequently happen between men and women (or shall I say, mostly done by men). It's interesting to get to know, what makes him do that to you and how to know the differences?

So here it is.

Why guys show attention but don't take it further?

Men who string women along tend to be those who needd of a lot of sexual validation.

He may not be interested in any kind of serious relationship, but he wants to boost his self-esteem by reminding himself that women are attracted to him sexually. Hence he goes and dates and sends flirty texts even when he has no desire for things to move forward.

So what can you do about this?

The trick is knowing the difference between him playing and him chasing.

Look for the following signs to know if he's chasing you:

- He gets back to your texts and calls in good time (i.e. he does not wait for a week or more before texing out of the blue)

- He suggests meeting up and actively tries to schedule a date

- When he meets you, he expresses a desire to do real dates, rather than just hanging out at his place

- He wants to get to know you rather than just sleep with you

- He doesn't express a desire to be single (i.e. if he keeps saying he doesn't want a girlfriend, take him at his word)

Before a guy does these things, by all means you can be in contact and flirt with him, but don’t hold out a false hope that with enough time he’ll suddenly “get serious” and start pursuing you for a relationship.

In some cases, it is possible that a guy is not chasing because he’s got a ton going on in his life, or because he’s under immense career pressure and can’t imagine a relationship right now, or because he just broke up with his ex and needs to heal first.

The point is, whatever is going on his life is totally out of your control.

Your job in the early stages is not to play the guessing game. Let him do what he does and react accordingly.

What is undeniably crazy though is taking a chance with your heart on someone you already know isn’t bothered about giving you theirs.

Written by: Stephen Hussey

So the important thing for you to know is just to be careful with a men/women that you just knew for very short times. They may be bring happiness for you or vice versa. Just follow your intuition and heart. So you will know what its good or bad for you.

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